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For the first time EVER, i took a deep breath, gulped, and updated my status on Facebook to “In a relationship.” I’m now having a glass of wine and some ice cream to calm myself.

I’ve always been shy about posting that kind of thing on a public website where my every move is sent presumptuously to all my friends on a mini-feed. My life really isn’t interesting enough to require urgent press releases and anyone who needs to know about my day to day already does because we talk.

Also, the problem has never been changing to IN. It has always been having to change it back to OUT that scared me. If I go in and then have to go back out, it hurts a lot more than the little broken heart icon next to my name suggests. I don’t feel the need to have my painful life events broadcast to my friends from elementary school.

Finally, I’ve never been “In a relationship” that I felt comfortable enough declaring to the world. In fact, I’ve been in relationships that lasted years and I only got as far “It’s complicated.” You have to be confident in your relationship to want to blast it out to the world and frankly, most relationships I’ve had included a fair bit of anxiety, mistrust, or lackluster.

I felt compelled to brave the relationship status dropdown menu for a variety of reasons. For one, I’m in a relationship…a happy, real, exciting, grown-up one. I’m totally smitten with this big shot from Texas and I’m gonna keep him, if I can. He has elevated my life to a whole new altitude (and attitude). He is simply fabulous. Also, he changed his and it seemed weird for him to be in a relationship and me to not be.

It is not that I don’t still worry about having to change it back to “Single.” I do. And it isn’t that Facebook is suddenly a replacement for having actual conversations. It is not.

I guess, for once, I kinda want people to know. I want my closest friends all the way down to random strangers on the internet to know that I’m taken and I like it. It is scary and presumptuous. But it is also genuine. (Not to mention that it is about effing time! *wink*)

Sorry to all my Facebook friends for the unsolicited mini-feed update. But, hey, I don’t send you annoying application invites or even poke you very much. Hopefully the shock of seeing that update come through from the previously accused Spiny Fish at least made you choke on your morning coffee (and then smile afterwards).

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